There is No Failing When You Go For It

Back in October I went for a dream – I auditioned for the role of co-host for a Rhode Island morning program called the Rhode Show.  A friend told me about the open casting calls and without hesitation I booked a hotel room and blocked the time off on my calendar.

Having never auditioned for anything before, I was, in a word, nervous.  Fearful thoughts like – “You’re not good enough.”  “What are you thinking!” “Who do you think you are?”  – ran through my mind.  And at the same time I remained cool.   Ever since I started hosting and producing my community TV show in 2007 I knew I wanted this.

While I didn’t get a call back (I would be lying if I said I wasn’t a little disappointed) I had the time of my life, and learned, as always, an incredible amount as a result:

Support, Support, Support! I will say this until I die. Thank you to all the people who supported me in this adventure.  Creating positive support systems is critical when going for a dream.

“This is where I’m supposed to be.” As soon as I finished the audition I said to my friend, “That was awesome! When can I do it again?  This is where I’m supposed to be!”  I typically make decisions based on what I don’t want.  On this particular day, I became pretty clear about what I do want.  Taking action towards your dreams helps create clarity about your path.

Building confidence and competence. As a result of taking this step I now know what I’m capable of achieving and what I need to improve.  My confidence was boosted considerably when one of the judges asked me, “Have we ever done a segment about you on the Rhode Show?”  “No” I responded. “Well we should!”  Now that was “feel good” living.  The best way to build competence and confidence is to take action.  What action can you take to build that confidence, regardless of the outcome?

Enjoy the ride.  I fully understand the meaning of “enjoy the ride”.  The ride is where the fun, excitement and stories come from.  I left thinking “Maybe I don’t really want the gig, I just want the excitement of going for it!” I happen to be an adrenaline junkie.  If you find yourself feeling impatient, or simply wanting to reach that final destination, remember getting there really is a big part of the fun!

There is no failing when you go for it. I didn’t get a call back and I cannot consider that a failure.  I learned an incredible amount about about my skills and my character. I know what I will improve for the future, and it re-ignited a fire in my belly.  If you want something in this world, you can’t stay home and dream.  Eventually you have to get off the couch and go for it – again and again and again.

Thanks to this experience, I’ll be re-launching my TV show, Back to Your Senses, as a weekly online segment right here on this blog starting in January.  Filming begins next week and I’m excited about the new direction and even more excited to bring it to a wider audience.

I also have a new mantra for 2010:

There is no failing when you go for it.

What are you going for in 2010?  What support do you need to help get you there?  Seek it out, create a plan and make it happen.  Share your dreams below and we can all help each other take the necessary steps to get there.

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  • Peggy

    Hi Stacey,

    I’m starting my internet radio show in 2010. It will air the first Monday of every month beginning Jan 4 at 8PM EST. The Stepmom’s Toolbox Radio Show on Diva Toolbox Radio will dish tips, tools and advice for stepmoms and moms! I’m always looking for new guests (other than stepmom experts – looking for LIFE experts!) and sponsors for the show!

    I’m also going for my book deal in 2010. Straight up, no excuses, plain and simple. Anyone who wants to read my *stuff* and give me sharp constructive criticism is welcome to contact me.

    Happy Friday and Weekend!


  • Tess The Bold Life

    This is so cool. You’ll never regret taking action. I agree there is no failure. I’m excited about your show and the direction you’re going. A role model for all.

    You go friend! I’ll read your writing anytime!

  • Jodi at Joy Discovered

    Good for you, Stacey! Way to go for that audition. It is so cool how it clarified what you want. I’m looking forward to your film segments in January!

  • Lance

    That you stepped out there and faced your fears is so good to see! And when we have the support of others, stepping outside of our boxes, and trying new things isn’t as bad. Support from others who care can really make all the difference.

    Okay, so this is all great that you did this, that you tried something outside of your comfort zone. Stacey, what I really think is special here, though, is how you have shared it here for everyone to read. You are exposing a part of you, along with some of the fears you have. And I’m reminded that, even though something might scare me, or that I might not always get the result I want – I’m only failing if I’m not listening to my heart. And this post shines of that – of just how much the “right” path is the one for us to take…even though there will likely be pitfalls along the way. If we’re listening to our hearts, and we keep believing in ourselves and our dreams…then it IS possible!

    And so…Stacey…YOU are sharing your amazing light with the world. Your honesty and authenticity make you shine even brighter! That is so, so good to see…

    I’m looking forward to 2010…and to see where it takes you! And for me, I plan to make the upcoming year one that is filled with living more in alignment with my true self…

  • Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord

    What an awesome story and WOW WOW WOW! I saw so much of myself in your words today. You’ve reminded me to keep my eye on the prize, and yes, stop and smell a few roses along the way (like you, I happen to be an adrenaline junkie). I needed to read this inspiration today, Stacey, so thank you . And how funny is it that just this morning someone sent me the famous Roosevelt quote about giving credit not to the critic who watches life go by, but to the man who was in the ring – trying, possibly failing, but never giving up? I love synchronicity!
    Happy Friday!

  • Karl Staib – Work Happy Now

    Great attitude. So many people try something and fail then are too afraid to keep trying. I think relaunching your TV show is a great idea. I look forward to watching the new and improved first episode.

    Adrenaline is a great motivator. I always have regrets right before I do something challenging, but once I’m in it and after it’s over I love the rush. It’s this natural feeling that shows us how much fun life can be.

    Let me know if I can be of any help on your TV show.

  • Katie West/The Levity Coach

    I find you so inspirational. I love how you are willing to take a leap whether it is a new effort, like posting a video or trying out for a dream…it moves me to keep challenging myself to “my leading edge of action”.
    Hmmm….Here is my secret desire that I want to not be secret about any longer. In 2010 I want to be on both the Oprah and Ellen show for promoting levity and laughter in our society. And I want to write a book. And me a rockin’ mom too.
    There I said it. Thank you for making me step up to the plate. And I agree the power is in showing up and just doing it.

  • Stacey Shipman

    Peggy – I contemplated a radio show as well. Actually I had one last year for a short while, but I think for now I’ll stick to TV. Good luck! It’s SO MUCH fun…If you need a guest, let me know!!

    Tess – It’s funny because as a young girl/teen I heard the quote “it’s better to regret something you’ve done than something you haven’t done”. I hold that near and dear.

    Jodi – Thank you – it was cool! I can only hope every person has moments like that in their life.

    Lance – Absolutely. We have to tune out the “Shoulds” to follow what is in our heart and our gut. It’s not easy, but it is possible!! Good luck with all of your new directions, too.

    Megan – Thank you! After we spoke last week, I really did feel that we are on similar paths (including the adrenaline junkie thing!), just a few years behind one another. Happy Friday to you!

    Karl – Thank you – maybe we can film a segment when I’m in Texas this January! That would be fun!

    Katie – Thank you…taking the leap took time and practice, for sure! But I’ve always had big dreams and now I’m in a place to understand the fact that I can go for them! Like you I want to be on Oprah (we have until 2011) and Ellen, but even more so – I can’t wait to have them on MY show! ha ha ha…I’ve got my book in process – I’m sure we can support each other along the way. :-)

  • Peggy Nolan

    Stacey – Let me know what month is good for you. Only January is taken – I would love to have you on my show!


  • Evita

    Hi Stacey!

    Loved the energy in this post! Good for you for going for it, and you are so right!!!! Going for it, is success in itself. It is all part of our journey and I love it!

    It was so great too to hear about being patient and not wanting to be at the end. A few months ago, I wanted things “now” – and now I am just letting things flow and it feels so good!

    Love your new mantra and as for me for 2010….hmmm… I want to take myself to new states and experiences of my being. I know they will open up many exciting doors and steer my talents where I am most needed and enjoy being….

  • Bob Weisenberg

    Yes, yes, yes. This is so right and wise.

    Life is so amazing when we are able to just get our egos out of the way! To me, one of the three main principles of Yoga, along with “Concentrate the Mind” and “Experience the Wonder of the Universe”, both of which are also evident in your delicious blog above.

    Thank you!

    Bob Weisenberg

  • Walter

    In 2010 I’m want to do much better. I will learn, learn and learn. Life is short to live in inferiority. :-)

  • Chris Edgar

    Thanks for this Stacey — I know I’ve definitely had the same kind of experience sending articles to magazines and talking to radio hosts — before I went out and did those things (and got rejected a lot) they seemed frightening and impossible, but these days I think nothing of it.

  • Stacey Shipman

    Peggy – I’ll get in touch with you. Thanks!

    Evita – Thank you! Patience is by far the hardest part!

    Walter – Learn, learn, learn – I like it. There is always something to learn!

    Chris – I feel that same pain. Once I take action I realize how silly the fear is. :-)

  • Wendi Kelly~Life’s Little Inspirations


    That was an inspiring story, as I sit here on my couch drinking my morning java, I was so revved up I almost jumped off the sofa!

    Good for you Stacey, it takes a lot of courage to risk rejection and failure but once we get into the mindset that the only failure is in never trying then we can jump into amazing new adventures.
    2010 is already jump starting for me. I’ve launched a brand new company in the last few weeks that combines my coaching, writing and marketing background with my business partner’s amazing graphic design skills. ( Sirius Graphix) In the next month or so, Life’s Little Inspirations is going to blend with that so that I can take inspired writing and helping people to the the level. My joy is always going to be the same- Inspiring people to reach their dreams. When I can do that..I am one happy camper!

    Here’s to 2010! Together we can do anything!

    • Stacey Shipman

      Hi Wendy! Thank you and congratulations on your new venture. How exciting! I think 2010 is going to bring a lot of new for people, I know there will be changes/updates/additions on my site and I’m so looking forward to it. I love what you have in store in 2010 and look forward to watching it unfold. Happy New Year – and yes, together is a big part of success!

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