There is No Failing When You Go For It
Back in October I went for a dream – I auditioned for the role of co-host for a Rhode Island morning program called the Rhode Show. A friend told me about the open casting calls and without hesitation I booked a hotel room and blocked the time off on my calendar.
Having never auditioned for anything before, I was, in a word, nervous. Fearful thoughts like – “You’re not good enough.” “What are you thinking!” “Who do you think you are?” – ran through my mind. And at the same time I remained cool. Ever since I started hosting and producing my community TV show in 2007 I knew I wanted this.
While I didn’t get a call back (I would be lying if I said I wasn’t a little disappointed) I had the time of my life, and learned, as always, an incredible amount as a result:
Support, Support, Support! I will say this until I die. Thank you to all the people who supported me in this adventure. Creating positive support systems is critical when going for a dream.
“This is where I’m supposed to be.” As soon as I finished the audition I said to my friend, “That was awesome! When can I do it again? This is where I’m supposed to be!” I typically make decisions based on what I don’t want. On this particular day, I became pretty clear about what I do want. Taking action towards your dreams helps create clarity about your path.
Building confidence and competence. As a result of taking this step I now know what I’m capable of achieving and what I need to improve. My confidence was boosted considerably when one of the judges asked me, “Have we ever done a segment about you on the Rhode Show?” “No” I responded. “Well we should!” Now that was “feel good” living. The best way to build competence and confidence is to take action. What action can you take to build that confidence, regardless of the outcome?
Enjoy the ride. I fully understand the meaning of “enjoy the ride”. The ride is where the fun, excitement and stories come from. I left thinking “Maybe I don’t really want the gig, I just want the excitement of going for it!” I happen to be an adrenaline junkie. If you find yourself feeling impatient, or simply wanting to reach that final destination, remember getting there really is a big part of the fun!
There is no failing when you go for it. I didn’t get a call back and I cannot consider that a failure. I learned an incredible amount about about my skills and my character. I know what I will improve for the future, and it re-ignited a fire in my belly. If you want something in this world, you can’t stay home and dream. Eventually you have to get off the couch and go for it – again and again and again.
Thanks to this experience, I’ll be re-launching my TV show, Back to Your Senses, as a weekly online segment right here on this blog starting in January. Filming begins next week and I’m excited about the new direction and even more excited to bring it to a wider audience.
I also have a new mantra for 2010:
There is no failing when you go for it.
What are you going for in 2010? What support do you need to help get you there? Seek it out, create a plan and make it happen. Share your dreams below and we can all help each other take the necessary steps to get there.