Feel Good Friday: Lend a Helping Hand

Feel Good Friday is a new segment that will post each week providing thoughts and tips for healthy, feel-good living. This is a day late due to my travels without internet access.

helpingThe Dalai Lama has this to say about the “True Meaning of Life”

We are visitors on this planet. We are here for ninety or one hundred years at the very most. During that period, we must try to do something good, something useful, with our lives. If you contribute to other people’s happiness, you will find the true goal, the true meaning of life.

When was the last time you did something for someone else, no strings attached? You did it simply because you knew it would benefit them, or as the Dalai Lama states would “contribute to someone’s happiness.” You did it simply because you know that helping others selflessly just plain “feels good”.

Opportunities to provide service to others, on a large or small scale, are readily available.  Here are a few examples:

Something as simple as a complement to a friend or colleague. “Hey! You look great today.”

Helping a neighbor in need. True Story: Last week I was scheduled to shoot an episode of my soon to launch online TV show when at the last minute my guest canceled. Her sister’s house burnt down in the middle of the night. I don’t know her very well, I contacted her to check in.

Helping with world disasters such as the devastation in Haiti. One way my family and I are helping the people of Haiti is through an organization called Heart to Heart International. My friend and colleague Susan Hammond offers a short post on how to give wisely to ensure your dollars are being spent appropriately. For a list of organizations helping in Haiti and how to “impact your world”:  http://edition.cnn.com/SPECIALS/2007/impact/

Volunteering your time with local organizations. For instance, I am a volunteer “Big Sister” with the Big Sister Association of Greater Boston.

I’m not suggesting you take on every cause.  Instead, identify what you believe in and what feels good for you and then devise a plan to help. Your contribution counts, no matter how large or small.

Whether long term or short term, time or money, lending a helping hand is feel-good living.

How can you help today?

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  • http://allaboutjoy.typepad.com/ Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord

    Stacey, I love this post and think it shares a valuable lesson that could help change the world, one small act of kindness at a time. I was talking to someone last week about the idea of acting without an agenda. I think that’s what selflessness is all about. We do something, as you said, simply because it feels good or is the “right” (loving) thing to do. Not because of what we think we’ll get in return.

    Even on our blogs, we have a chance to demonstrate this. A lot of times it’s easy to get caught up in the “I’ll leave a comment on their blog because I know they’ll leave one on mine.” Then if that person doesn’t, do we return to their blog at a later date to show support, or do we retreat and feel hurt, thinking we’d be wasting our time otherwise?

    Acting without an agenda. Unconditional love. However we term it, it’s what this world needs now more than ever before.

  • http://evolvingbeings.com Evita

    Beautiful messages Stacey and I love when we put our “talk” into our “walk” and take action on things. While it is nice to absorb all sorts of wisdom and life lessons, unless we put them into practical terms, how much are they really worth?

    I so second all that you said. The cause especially dear to my heart at the moment is helping the people of Haiti and I am glad you also are encouraging others to grow in compassion and extend their services in any way they can too.

  • http://www.workhappynow.com Karl Staib – Work Happy Now

    By thinking about other people and what they need we can magnify our happiness. We stop trying to be happy through selfish needs and try to connect with a larger purpose.

    I helped someone by giving them free work happiness advice. They really appreciated it.

  • http://theboldlife.com Tess The Bold Life

    The only way we keep our ego out of our giving is to give anonymously or to give without expecting anything in return. Someone once told me wanting or expecting a thank you card was an attachment.

    I regularly give my time, talent and money. I believe it has to a lot to do with my happiness.

    We have so much to give, a helping hand, a shoulder to lean on, a smile, a kind word, the gift of listening, love, the benefit of the doubt…the list is endless.

  • http://staceyshipman.com Stacey Shipman

    Megan – I agree acting without an agenda is needed now more than ever. Wanting something in return is an attachment we need to let go of.

    Evita – Thank you. I do believe in practicing what we preach…though challenging – is important to really make a difference.

    Karl – you nailed it with the word connection. We are not alone here and all need someone to depend on.

    Tess – Yes, the list of giving is endless. I was told any expectation is an attachment…and I continuously work to let go of many attachments I’ve held on to in the past.

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