Pick Yourself Up When You Fall
News flash: life isn’t always a bed of roses, full of fresh scents and good times.
Sometimes we fall.
What counts is whether or not we get back up. And whether or not we get up with class.
I don’t watch much TV but I do have a few guilty pleasures. America’s Got Talent is one of them. Do you watch it? I have a few favorites including Anna and Patryck, the young ballroom dancers.
That’s why my heart nearly jumped out of my chest when she fell as she walked down the stairs last night (did you see it?). As my heart raced, my thoughts followed, “Oh poor thing!” “Oh my gosh, is she going to trip?” “Did that throw her off?”
Really, that was me projecting what I would have thought about myself if I had fallen.
Instead, she didn’t miss a beat. And neither did her partner. She picked herself up just as quickly as she fell, held her head high and brightened the stage with her smile. The rest of their performance was flawless. You can watch Anna and Patryk’s performance here.
My thoughts echoed the judges’: “That is a performer with true confidence. A real professional.”
Sure, she had tears in her eyes when she finished. I would have cried, too. Crying is a stress response. And when you fall during a competitive performance on live television in front of millions of viewers, and you’re only twelve years old, don’t you think that’s just a little bit stressful?
But she didn’t show it when it counted – during her performance. She wants the win. She fell, but she didn’t quit. She fell, and it “hurt”, but she picked herself back up and held her head high, finishing strong.
I’ve fallen quite a bit, literally and figuratively in my career as a speaker, leader and market research professional. What matters most is how you get back up. Think about sports team coaches who get fired and then picked up immediately by another team. Just because you are down doesn’t necessarily mean you are out. Unless that’s what you decide.
If you want something bad enough – to lose weight, have a satisfying career, speak with more confidence or something else –you cannot quit when you fall. And chances are if you’re playing hard enough, you’ll fall at least occasionally.
Feel it for the moment, then pick yourself up, brush yourself off, figure out what you might have caused the fall, and use the experience as a learning opportunity for the future. When you choose to get back up after a fall, that is feel good living.
Life isn’t always a smooth road. Sometimes we fall. How will you get up when you do?