Are You in Good Company? (and a few photos from the Stars 40 Under 40 event)
On Friday I attended the 2nd annual South Shore Stars 40 Under 40 Emerging Leaders fundraiser event, recognizing 40 south shore professionals under 40 years old for their professional, leadership and community accomplishments. South Shore Day Care/Stars is a local non-profit providing day care and educational support to families south of Boston.
I’m humbled and honored to be chosen as one of the 2011 40 under 40 emerging leaders.
I watched, listened and applauded as names were called one by one congratulating each young professional for his/her accomplishments. As I sat amongst this impressive group, a mix of self-employed and corporate professionals, I felt chills run through me.
People are good, I thought. I am lucky to live in such a special place, surrounded by people making a difference in his/her own way.
Once upon a time I didn’t trust others and had a hard time seeing the good in the world around me. I also had a hard time trusting and seeing the good in myself. In fact, my high school yearbook quote reads: Before you can begin to love others, you must first learn to love yourself.
What you see in others is a reflection of what you see in and how you feel about yourself.
Over the years I’ve learned to trust myself. The more I trust myself, the more I trust others. As a result, I’m surrounded by the goodness of people every day. I also enjoy stronger more meaningful relationships.
How did I learn to build trust?
- Being aware of myself, my actions and my surroundings
- Finding time for quiet to listen to my instincts and silence the distractions
- Built my confidence by tuning into fear, allowing vulnerability and taking action. Every time I act on something I learn and I build my confidence. No matter what I’m still standing!
- Create strong connections with people who could help me and I could help in return. I “fired”, at least temporarily, folks who weren’t growing in the same direction. (this is not easy yet sometimes necessary)
As you think about your goals, values and work, and community involvement think about the company you keep and get curious about the role these people play.
- Are you in the company of supportive go-getters?
- Or are you in the company of people who complain a lot and feel less than satisfied?
- What company do you want to keep? And where might you find those folks?
- Are there people you might need to “fire” or distance yourself from in order to feel better about yourself, your work or your contribution to your community?
These are challenging yet powerful questions to ask. When you feel good about yourself, you are more confident and know exactly who you want to surround yourself with.
Are you in good company?